The truth behind the Mom.

As a parent and full-time college student, things can get harder, harder than most can imagine. Tonight Twin 1, spilled an 8 0z bottle of formula down his new Pj outfit, just bathed and now smelling like a load of milk and if you've ever smelled children's formula you would know that it stinks, and if it settles it smells even worse. Making things harder,

Admitting that you have a problem is always the first step they say. since having the twins life is chaos and this mom like every other mom around me, has PPD. If you do not know what that is, it's the dreaded depression that 9/10 moms get after having a baby.. Post Partum depression  Oh, wait a minute... You mean woman don't just pop out babies and become maternal and shit?

No, Not all the time, we have a maternal instinct, yes, but just like the daddies, our lives are changed. our lives are sucked from us and changed to become all about the tiny being that we nurtured. Our lives are changed and all true mothers would agree that it's for the best. That also doesn't mean that there is a big adjustment period where our moods are up and down and after giving birth, Hello... Hormones, they are like kids jacked up on sugar where a crash is not expected.

I know that I said that I wouldn't do any mom blogs but this is not that, one post is as good as it gets. topics can get limited in the life of a mom. Post-Partum depression doesn't mean that a mom hates her kids, it means that the change from 0 to 1 or 1 to an automatic 3 like me means that shit just got real and we must change our views of happiness to fit the new life we are in.

Mom should mean resilient, even the men readers look at your moms or the mother figures in your lives think about the sacrifice that they went  through to make sure you were okay. If you have a Mother like mine then don't go on the defense I also mentioned Mother figures because there are plenty of women who can not handle or adapt to what being a mom entails. My Mother, avid alcoholic, and liar. We don't have a relationship because her relationship with booze  was stronger than the bond of mother and daughter, but over the many tears spilled years of dreaming that I had a mommy that loved me, a few very strong woman filled that void. I am a Daddies girl, and he's not even my blood. My stepfather stepped up and become the Mom and Dad that I was missing in my life. 


Anyway, my point is that before the idea that when a woman becomes a mother they are expected to be independent, take care of the children and let go of dreams, because of thats what we as woman are "programmed" to do. We are supposed to automatically be okay with it. Please our lives are stressful, we have gray hair before were 30, we don't have great figures a lot of us aren't even on the "MILF" status.  A lot of us have at one point wished that we would have waited to have babies, but the smiles and their personality and the little things they do that amaze us erases all doubt in an instant.
so to all my Mothers, You are outstanding! and

 the father readers, you guys are great ( I can't leave ya'll out) You've actually stuck around through all the crazy

Thanks,
Maddie